Among the civilized one interaction between husband and wife, a husband is supposed to be in the middle of a wife's jealousy, so it is not exaggerated, or otherwise undermine his jealousy. He should do preventive measures, do not be unmindful of the things that need to worry about the danger. While maintaining his wife, but within the limits of shari'ah prescribed. Things like this and similar sites, including the type of jealousy is commendable. Attitude and over-jealous husband who is not based on evidence of prejudice and reason, and also always to control and supervise the wife in everything he does, he included other shameful acts prohibited.
Allah says,
That means: "O ye who believe, avoid most of suspicion, and even some suspicion is a sin and that you do not find fault with other people." (QS. Al-Hujurat/49: 12).
Prophet Shallahu alaihi wa sallam, also forbids the husband to find fault with his wife. When he shallahu alaihi wa sallam; confirmed in the hadith: "There is kind of jealousy that God hated him. Jealousy is a husband to the wife who is not accompanied by strong indications that support it". (Narrated by Al-Bazzar, and At-Thabrani).
Whoever ignores the nature of jealousy can better strengthen the relationship between husband and wife, so he lived with a broken heart and deviate from nature. Described by the Prophet: shallahu alaihi wa sallam "Verily Allah does not see the ad-dayuts on the Day of Resurrection, and will not go to heaven". (Narrated by Ahmad, 2 / 169, 134).
Dayyuts is, a husband who does not have a jealous nature and let her sin. And conversely, a husband who is too much jealousy will live miserable and tormented, even a wife who is rarely able to live long with it, because it always felt watched and felt depressed.
A reasonable attitude in this case will bring a positive impact, maintaining the dignity, honor and achievement of a happy life. Attitude in dealing with mid jealousy, that he stayed away from prejudice, not looking for one case in detail if not required, so do not rush in to accept the news that deliberately exhaled by people who have bad intentions, without a filter, be careful of cases the fear of danger, and to protect them from destructive behavior. If met, then that is the real virtue. Conversely, if not, it will bring disaster for domestic life.
Sometimes there among the infected husband jealous nature blind. He felt jealous (wife) of all people, so the wife is forbidden to visit or be visited, although the visit of those noble and honorable. The husband could not accept, if the door is open. He did not feel comfortable if someone visiting his wife, without any knowledge. Or when he was not at home. If he went to work, all doors closed, the key, and after coming home surrounded the entire room and observed. To the extent that if a parent or mahram from his wife came to visit, then have to wait outside the house until a jealous husband had arrived. This can make the wife and brother to be offended and angry because they feel unappreciated.
For husbands who have such qualities, is more fair and accurate to say to him: "What do you do that, not including the right of jealousy according to religion. It is also not true jealousy of a man named. This is nothing more than an excessive concern that you have with your wife from the shackles of syar'i rights. In such circumstances, such as the wife is not living nor when dead. You have put out the light of glory and honor. Is that a good name in public discussion. If you include the rights of Muslims, who hold the moral and ethics of Islam, of course you'll take the word of God, which means: "O ye who believe, avoid most of suspicion, even some of the prejudice is a sin and you do not find fault with others. "(QS. Al-Hujurat/49: 12).
In contrast, there was a husband who was fascinated with modern civilization and worldly luxuries. So take his wife to go to places of entertainment, give her the freedom to meet other people, both good and bad deeds. Until the end of the wife doing the forbidden religion. It turned out later, the husband was jealous. Arriving at home, counting his mistakes have been made, until there is a dispute between them. But the husband was still negligent and had not realized his jealousy. He was always just opened the door for anyone, friend or colleague. He does not feel guilty if they came when he was not there, until finally, if there has been bad news about the honor of his wife, he realized his ignorance, jealousy again, anger, and anger.
O, negligent husband! Jealousy is no longer useful after the disaster occurred.
Jealousy is envy the hated, which does not produce anything other than household mahligai destruction. So leave the false jealousy. Replace with religion is justified jealousy, envy the wise and not blind, it is a jealous lover of Allah, which is not possible because of the negative things in between the good and honorable people.
With the guidance of Allah Subhanahu wa taa'la; and on the values of this key, happy life for the whole community can be achieved. Wallahu a'lam.
Allah says,
That means: "O ye who believe, avoid most of suspicion, and even some suspicion is a sin and that you do not find fault with other people." (QS. Al-Hujurat/49: 12).
Prophet Shallahu alaihi wa sallam, also forbids the husband to find fault with his wife. When he shallahu alaihi wa sallam; confirmed in the hadith: "There is kind of jealousy that God hated him. Jealousy is a husband to the wife who is not accompanied by strong indications that support it". (Narrated by Al-Bazzar, and At-Thabrani).
Whoever ignores the nature of jealousy can better strengthen the relationship between husband and wife, so he lived with a broken heart and deviate from nature. Described by the Prophet: shallahu alaihi wa sallam "Verily Allah does not see the ad-dayuts on the Day of Resurrection, and will not go to heaven". (Narrated by Ahmad, 2 / 169, 134).
Dayyuts is, a husband who does not have a jealous nature and let her sin. And conversely, a husband who is too much jealousy will live miserable and tormented, even a wife who is rarely able to live long with it, because it always felt watched and felt depressed.
A reasonable attitude in this case will bring a positive impact, maintaining the dignity, honor and achievement of a happy life. Attitude in dealing with mid jealousy, that he stayed away from prejudice, not looking for one case in detail if not required, so do not rush in to accept the news that deliberately exhaled by people who have bad intentions, without a filter, be careful of cases the fear of danger, and to protect them from destructive behavior. If met, then that is the real virtue. Conversely, if not, it will bring disaster for domestic life.
Sometimes there among the infected husband jealous nature blind. He felt jealous (wife) of all people, so the wife is forbidden to visit or be visited, although the visit of those noble and honorable. The husband could not accept, if the door is open. He did not feel comfortable if someone visiting his wife, without any knowledge. Or when he was not at home. If he went to work, all doors closed, the key, and after coming home surrounded the entire room and observed. To the extent that if a parent or mahram from his wife came to visit, then have to wait outside the house until a jealous husband had arrived. This can make the wife and brother to be offended and angry because they feel unappreciated.
For husbands who have such qualities, is more fair and accurate to say to him: "What do you do that, not including the right of jealousy according to religion. It is also not true jealousy of a man named. This is nothing more than an excessive concern that you have with your wife from the shackles of syar'i rights. In such circumstances, such as the wife is not living nor when dead. You have put out the light of glory and honor. Is that a good name in public discussion. If you include the rights of Muslims, who hold the moral and ethics of Islam, of course you'll take the word of God, which means: "O ye who believe, avoid most of suspicion, even some of the prejudice is a sin and you do not find fault with others. "(QS. Al-Hujurat/49: 12).
In contrast, there was a husband who was fascinated with modern civilization and worldly luxuries. So take his wife to go to places of entertainment, give her the freedom to meet other people, both good and bad deeds. Until the end of the wife doing the forbidden religion. It turned out later, the husband was jealous. Arriving at home, counting his mistakes have been made, until there is a dispute between them. But the husband was still negligent and had not realized his jealousy. He was always just opened the door for anyone, friend or colleague. He does not feel guilty if they came when he was not there, until finally, if there has been bad news about the honor of his wife, he realized his ignorance, jealousy again, anger, and anger.
O, negligent husband! Jealousy is no longer useful after the disaster occurred.
Jealousy is envy the hated, which does not produce anything other than household mahligai destruction. So leave the false jealousy. Replace with religion is justified jealousy, envy the wise and not blind, it is a jealous lover of Allah, which is not possible because of the negative things in between the good and honorable people.
With the guidance of Allah Subhanahu wa taa'la; and on the values of this key, happy life for the whole community can be achieved. Wallahu a'lam.
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